Don't think of rebirth.

Chapter 580 Sincerity

Gu Qinghuan was speechless for a moment.

It was indeed a bit rude of Jia Yimo to suddenly ask her for advice, but judging from her various behaviors, she was actually very polite and could be said to have been well-educated.

Why do such people behave so "disappointingly" when interacting with others?

She asked, "After listening to your friends' reasons, you still haven't changed your mind?"

Jia Yimo's expression was very conflicted. "It's not that there haven't been any changes, for example, when we were eating hot pot, she said she just wanted to eat it, and I said let's eat it, after all, it's her who has the acne, not me."

"The next day, the acne on her face was indeed worse. When she was whining, I said, 'I told you but you didn't listen.' She had a big fight with me and we broke up."

Hearing this, the situation seemed even more serious. Gu Qinghuan rarely held his forehead with his hand.

"Since your friend chose to eat hotpot, she should bear the consequences of her choice. This is indeed her problem," said Gu Qinghuan.

Jia Yimo nodded repeatedly and was about to agree when Gu Qinghuan changed the subject: "However, since you want to get along well with your friends, you can adopt a method that the other party can accept more easily."

"For example, before going to eat hot pot, you can agree with your friend that she can only eat light soup or tomato soup, or if she really wants to eat a strong-flavored soup, limit the amount she eats."

"In this case, if she still chooses to indulge herself, then she has no reason to vent her anger on others."

Of course, there is no need to be so serious and meticulous when treating ordinary people, but the premise is that Jia Yimo and the other party are already friends.

If you don't even show this level of kindness, there's no point in talking about making friends.

Jia Yimo listened thoughtfully, and couldn't help but say, "But she deserves it. I won't feel happy even if I comfort her."

Why should she waste her energy on the mistakes of others and become an emotional trash can?

"Yes, she deserves it," Gu Qinghuan did not deny this, "but your way of dealing with it is not just to indulge and blame."

"You have to first identify whether she is just saying it or is really sorry. If it is the former, then there is really no need to make close friends with such a friend. She is just looking for a raft to shirk responsibility for her own wrong behavior."

"She may be thinking subconsciously that if you had persuaded her, things wouldn't have turned out like this, so she feels at ease blaming you."

"But if it's the latter, then since you want to maintain this friendship, you should work with her to find a solution, such as supervising her diet in the next few days."

"If you only talk about it without proposing a practical solution, then what you say is just an afterthought and a sarcastic remark, and others will naturally be disgusted."

Jia Yimo didn't even have time to chew his rice. After Gu Qinghuan finished speaking, he hurriedly opened his mouth only to realize there was still rice in his mouth, so he quickly swallowed it.

She couldn't wait to say, "Senior Gu, now I understand what you said!"

It is not a big problem for her to point out her friend's mistakes. What is important is whether she proves her good intentions with practical actions after pointing out the problems.

"When I think about it, it's a bit like the common couples' questions on the Internet." Jia Yimo said, "When a girl has menstrual cramps, what should a boy do?"

Gu Qinghuan thought this was a good question: "In that case, based on what I just said, try to answer this question?"

Jia Yimo had taken care of a friend with dysmenorrhea before, so she immediately said, "In winter, you can use a hot pack or electric hot water bottle, and accompany her to the infirmary, ask for leave from the teacher, and pour her some hot water and give her some ibuprofen..."

"These are indeed more practical approaches, and they do show enough consideration." Gu Qinghuan nodded.

"However, most of the hypothetical situations on the Internet have a premise - that is, the boy cannot be with the girl immediately due to various reasons."

"If so, what are you going to do?"

Jia Yimo suddenly had a headache. She kept repeating "action" and tried to say, "Order her a cup of hot milk tea, or order takeout to send over some ibuprofen?"

"Getting up from the bed and opening the door to get takeout while in pain can sometimes be a burden," Gu Qinghuan pressed on.

Jia Yimo couldn't help but complained subconsciously as usual: "What else can I do? Can't I just put down my phone and have a good rest?"

"That's another issue, emotional needs." Gu Qinghuan said patiently.

"Of course she knew she had menstrual cramps, and most girls also knew what they should do when they have menstrual cramps, but she still chose to confide her pain to others."

"So what she wants is actually more care and favoritism. In this case, a gentle tone can better soothe her emotions."

Instead of asking her “Who told you to drink cold drinks yesterday?”, ask her about her pain and food supplies, and then encourage her to endure the pain and take medicine first.

After she finishes, praise her and remind her to keep warm and get enough rest. Just doing this will actually make her mood much more stable.

Even if a girl is in a situation where she can’t rest, you can suggest to her: “Let’s talk about something happy, maybe it will not hurt if we divert our attention.”

Gu Qinghuan concluded: "Whether the method you provide is useful or not, the important thing is to let the other person know that you have indeed tried, considered her, and will accompany her."

"This way her needs are met and the relationship between the two becomes stronger - it's that simple."

Jia Yimo: No, that sounds difficult.

She scratched the back of her head. "I feel like the methods you mentioned, Senior Gu, are all very... uh, sincere?"

Jia Yimo put down her hand and said in confusion, "But, it's impossible to be so sincere to someone you just met not long ago, right? How can I trust him?"

"Then when are you going to show your sincerity?" Gu Qinghuan asked back.

This question stumped Jia Yimo. After thinking for a moment, she was somewhat surprised to find that it seemed that she had never had a close relationship with her former friends.

She immediately hesitated: "Well, we need to spend more time together, right? To know each other's preferences and so on?"

"Did you take the initiative to observe or ask?" Gu Qinghuan continued to ask.

Jia Yimo was speechless. What Gu Qinghuan taught her was enough to make her realize that she did not treat others well.

"I'm going to say something that may be hard to hear," Gu Qinghuan looked into Jia Yimo's eyes, "You think your sincerity is precious and can't be easily shown, but to others, your sincerity may be worthless."

"Take now, for example. If I ask you to show more sincerity before I teach you, and then instruct you to do this and that, and finally tell you that you have passed my test and I can teach you - can you really do it without complaint?"

Jia Yimo hesitated: "Maybe... I mind a little."

After all, even with Yan Changming's testimony, it cannot fully reflect Gu Qinghuan's strength, and it is even more difficult to distinguish the truth from falsehood of the deeds on the forum.

Before actually getting guidance, Jia Yimo could not fully trust Gu Qinghuan, so he would naturally be reluctant.

Gu Qinghuan didn't mind and just smiled: "That's it. Instead of holding on to it, you should take the initiative to show your kindness."

Jia Yimo asked, "What if I'm let down? Wouldn't I be hurt?"

Gu Qinghuan shook her head slightly, her smile becoming even brighter: "No, of course she will be hurt more if she loses me."

"I believe I am good enough, so even if I am let down, I am just leaving someone who is not right for me, which is a good thing!"

"I will not stop showing my sincerity to others just because of a bad guy. This is something that will always belong to me."